“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
So, I am not going to reiterate the definition here but I am going to tell you these children need love but NOT in the conventional sense. There are impairments in their ability to attach (like the name suggests) and they will NOT be cured with hugs. I am guilty of wanting to scoop these kids up and take them home. I, like you, imagine their early years of neglect and want to show them how much I care. THIS DOESN'T WORK. Show your love by doing the research and get to know the child. If you are lucky enough to know their history you may be able to develop a suitable program. If like many, these children are adopted and the history is essentially unknown, then we must look to others for strategies and interventions that have worked for them.